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Gary Brown's avatar

The lists wow make a guy think!

Thank you. Keep writing keep sharing you have a wonderful gift.

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Miriam's avatar

Honestly, without writing stuff down I barely know what I think and feel. It's really mostly for me, but hearing that it's helpful for others is a beautiful bonus! Keep thinking and feeling, my friend!

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Megan Lee's avatar

This is so beautiful and gives me chills! Your joy is radiating off of you. ✨💕🙏 And damn... "if you hide your true self long enough it will eventually wear you down". So, so very true. I'm on a quest to come back to myself because not living that way, well... the body will tell you. 💛 Thank you for sharing this beautiful message!

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Miriam's avatar

Thank you so much for your kind comment, Megan! I've been on a quest to get out of my head and into my body more, because I've hugely neglected its wisdom for a very long time. Our society is very mind-focused and cerebral, and while our brain is smart, our body carries with it ancient wisdom that our head can't grasp. It's a revelation to listen more closely to our body's message!

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Megan Lee's avatar

Yes yes yes! 💕 It truly is a revelation to listen to the body's wise message. 🙏

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Anna Rose's avatar

I adore these lists. Such a brilliant reflection! x

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Miriam's avatar

Thank you! I loved the idea, it really helps to separate what we think we *should* want from what we *actually* want.

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Kerstin Auer's avatar

Love this so much ❤️ I am so glad you broke the cycle and found yourself, more importantly started trusting yourself. Listening to your gut feeling, following your values, and getting to know yourself is the biggest gift you can give yourself. So excited about what’s ahead for you!

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Miriam's avatar

It's all hugely thanks to entering midlife and figuring out what's really important and what isn't. How's your writing going? We should meet for coffee again soon and catch up!

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Kerstin Auer's avatar

I am not really getting ahead with writing right now, but also not forcing myself to! So much going on with family stuff right now. Yes to coffee and catching up, can’t wait to hear how your writing project is coming along! Maybe next week?

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Kerstin Auer's avatar

P.S. text me! I haven’t been checking Substack too much 🤪

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Miriam's avatar

Lolol will do!

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Megan Youngmee's avatar

Loved this. Came over from Shame Sandwich. Your lists of what I thought I would make me happy vs what makes me happy are great. Right here with so many of them. especially loved. Living according to my values.

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Miriam's avatar

It never ceases to amaze me how much unlearning we have to do when it comes to joy and happiness. So many of the things we learnt are essential to happiness - money, status, titles - isn't all that it's cracked up to be. But loving and being loved, and defining your own values and then living according to them? Priceless.

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Megan Youngmee's avatar

so much truth in this :)

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