This is exactly where I am right now in my life, trying to discover the true me. For so long, I've morphed myself to fit in with those around me. Three months ago I started seeing a therapist to work through the monsters I've kept in a box. The timing of your essay is perfect.
I’m so happy that the essay came into your life at the right time! And that you’ve started on the journey of meeting and de-fanging your monsters. Once they’re dragged into the light, they lose their power. Confront them one by one, and see them shrivel and die!
Congratulations on #13, that's the best number in my opinion (not just because that's my birthday, well, maybe lol). What a great accomplishment, and 45 has never looked this good!
My mom told me that I'm the most selfish person in the world from a young age on, because I have always refused to surrender who I am for anyone or anything, including my family. Especially my family. But the only thing that taught me is that I only need to belong to myself, and nobody else, and I have developed the capacity to cut people out of my life without regret, no matter how close I am to them. Maybe that's not necessarily a good skill to have, and I have tried to soften my stance on occasion, but that usually bites me in the ass so I just stick with my gut.
I'm so glad that I have a way now of remembering your birthday! Lucky 13 ;-)
I'm more and more coming to the conclusion that if people are more negative than positive, they have no place in my life. I don't want to hurt them or be cruel, but I simply don't want them around me. Family isn't an exception. If they continually hurt us or use us, it's essential to our own health and happiness to put boundaries in place to protect ourselves. I totally get why you do that! It may seem harsh, but better ein Schrecken mit Ende als ein Ende ohne Schrecken!
Oh I so remember also wanting to hunker down even more with myself in my 40s. It’s as if it was a cocooning and hibernation period for me. All warm and cozy and filled with diving deep into my soul to uncover and explore who I really am. I wish you continued peace and bliss on your vision quest of transformation and becoming, my friend. ❤️
I feel like you're walking this path before me, a few steps/years ahead, and I'm following in your footsteps 👣
Time becomes ever more precious, and I want to enjoy it as much as I can, which means becoming ever more intentional with how and with whom I fill it. And as it turns out, I really like to spend it in my own company, which wasn't always the case. It's such a gift ❤️
This is exactly where I am right now in my life, trying to discover the true me. For so long, I've morphed myself to fit in with those around me. Three months ago I started seeing a therapist to work through the monsters I've kept in a box. The timing of your essay is perfect.
I’m so happy that the essay came into your life at the right time! And that you’ve started on the journey of meeting and de-fanging your monsters. Once they’re dragged into the light, they lose their power. Confront them one by one, and see them shrivel and die!
Congratulations on #13, that's the best number in my opinion (not just because that's my birthday, well, maybe lol). What a great accomplishment, and 45 has never looked this good!
My mom told me that I'm the most selfish person in the world from a young age on, because I have always refused to surrender who I am for anyone or anything, including my family. Especially my family. But the only thing that taught me is that I only need to belong to myself, and nobody else, and I have developed the capacity to cut people out of my life without regret, no matter how close I am to them. Maybe that's not necessarily a good skill to have, and I have tried to soften my stance on occasion, but that usually bites me in the ass so I just stick with my gut.
I'm so glad that I have a way now of remembering your birthday! Lucky 13 ;-)
I'm more and more coming to the conclusion that if people are more negative than positive, they have no place in my life. I don't want to hurt them or be cruel, but I simply don't want them around me. Family isn't an exception. If they continually hurt us or use us, it's essential to our own health and happiness to put boundaries in place to protect ourselves. I totally get why you do that! It may seem harsh, but better ein Schrecken mit Ende als ein Ende ohne Schrecken!
Oh I so remember also wanting to hunker down even more with myself in my 40s. It’s as if it was a cocooning and hibernation period for me. All warm and cozy and filled with diving deep into my soul to uncover and explore who I really am. I wish you continued peace and bliss on your vision quest of transformation and becoming, my friend. ❤️
I feel like you're walking this path before me, a few steps/years ahead, and I'm following in your footsteps 👣
Time becomes ever more precious, and I want to enjoy it as much as I can, which means becoming ever more intentional with how and with whom I fill it. And as it turns out, I really like to spend it in my own company, which wasn't always the case. It's such a gift ❤️